Shade of Improvement: A Piece of Work

Everyone has room for growth. Even the people who think they have everything figured out, really don’t have everything figured out. They are fooling themselves. Everyday there is something to learn about ourselves. It’s impossible to be a human being on this earth and not have room to better yourself!

You will never have everything in life figured out and reach perfection. You will never be the perfect spouse, mother, friend, girlfriend, sister, entrepreneur, anything! It’s just not possible. God didn’t create us to be perfect. If we as women constantly reminded ourselves of this maybe we would be less harder on ourselves. Each day is a blessing and a fresh start. A start and a chance to be a better woman than the day before. Not a perfect one, but better. Learning from yesterday and accepting that each day you have room for continual growth, learning, and improvement!

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Shade of Improvement…Not Bitter!

We all have experienced heartbreak from a man at one time or another. It happens to the best of us. It’s all part of that emotional thing called love. It’s super easy for us women to become bitter after a bad breakup. The lies, the hurt, the pain that an unhealthy relationship can bring. It can be very discouraging to try love ever again!

In the past after getting out of terrible relationships it took me a while to bounce back. It was hard to trust again after being betrayed and mistreated. I felt that every guy was a dog, and good men no longer existed. I was having a conversation with a guy that I was interested in, and he said to me “Why are you even trying to date? I can’t get to know you with this brick wall you have up. ” Needless to say that didn’t work out!

He was right with what he said. I couldn’t even see the wall l had built around myself, but as a man he could easily. To me it was about trying to protect myself from lying cheating no good men. In reality I was hindering myself from allowing a good, kind, honest man from coming into my life.

I learned that I can date smarter. I don’t have to be quick to trust every guy right away, but still allow myself to open up when I feel it’s right. I was holding on to what men I’ve dated in the past had done, and allowing it to prevent me from finding the love I deserve. I realized that being bitter wasn’t healthy. It was a huge hinderance. I learned that instead of being hurt and bitter to learn, grow, and be better!

Shade of Encouragement: Stay in Your Lane

If we focused more on being like ourselves do you realize how much better we would be as women? Our society is so big on keeping up with the Jonses and getting what the person next to us has, that we lose sight of just focusing on our own selves.

Get a bigger house because your best friend just got one, get bigger boobs because yours don’t look like Kim Kardashians, get married because you’re the last of your friends still single, blah blah and blah.

The more we focus on other people and what they have, the less we are focusing on how blessed we are. God has a plan for each and every one of us. An individual plan not a group plan. This ain’t Verizon. Your path is not going to be the same as the woman next to you and hers is not the same as yours. When you learn to stay in our own lane, you will begin to realize that your journey is made just for you. So buckle up and enjoy the ride!