Shade of Improvement: A Piece of Work

Everyone has room for growth. Even the people who think they have everything figured out, really don’t have everything figured out. They are fooling themselves. Everyday there is something to learn about ourselves. It’s impossible to be a human being on this earth and not have room to better yourself!

You will never have everything in life figured out and reach perfection. You will never be the perfect spouse, mother, friend, girlfriend, sister, entrepreneur, anything! It’s just not possible. God didn’t create us to be perfect. If we as women constantly reminded ourselves of this maybe we would be less harder on ourselves. Each day is a blessing and a fresh start. A start and a chance to be a better woman than the day before. Not a perfect one, but better. Learning from yesterday and accepting that each day you have room for continual growth, learning, and improvement!

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Shade of Improvement…Not Bitter!

We all have experienced heartbreak from a man at one time or another. It happens to the best of us. It’s all part of that emotional thing called love. It’s super easy for us women to become bitter after a bad breakup. The lies, the hurt, the pain that an unhealthy relationship can bring. It can be very discouraging to try love ever again!

In the past after getting out of terrible relationships it took me a while to bounce back. It was hard to trust again after being betrayed and mistreated. I felt that every guy was a dog, and good men no longer existed. I was having a conversation with a guy that I was interested in, and he said to me “Why are you even trying to date? I can’t get to know you with this brick wall you have up. ” Needless to say that didn’t work out!

He was right with what he said. I couldn’t even see the wall l had built around myself, but as a man he could easily. To me it was about trying to protect myself from lying cheating no good men. In reality I was hindering myself from allowing a good, kind, honest man from coming into my life.

I learned that I can date smarter. I don’t have to be quick to trust every guy right away, but still allow myself to open up when I feel it’s right. I was holding on to what men I’ve dated in the past had done, and allowing it to prevent me from finding the love I deserve. I realized that being bitter wasn’t healthy. It was a huge hinderance. I learned that instead of being hurt and bitter to learn, grow, and be better!

Shade of Improvement: A Dance from the Past

It’s often super hard to not let past mistakes and regrets hold us back. The past can be haunting. It can lurk around the corner when we are trying to move away from it. We hold on to it knowing that we should just let it go, but being human we often get stuck in the shoulda woulda coulda. It’s a dance that we dance with ourselves. I’m moving forward but let me step back. Forward forward back back. Wishing we did this differently or said this or done that. Then at the end of our thoughts we realize that there is not a single thing we can do. It’s the past. It’s done and will never return.

Sounds sad right, but in actuality it’s not. Mistakes and regrets from the past can better prepare us for the future. They are life lessons and pearls of wisdom that we now have under our belts because been there done that. You can’t change yesterday, last week, or last year. What you can do is allow those past mistakes and failures to be lessons that you learn, grow, and become better from. Let your past prepare you for a better future!

Shade of Improvement: The Art of Not Caring

Are you ready to get to the point in your life where you no longer care about what people think? I don’t mean that in a bad way. I mean it in the way of not letting other people’s opinions or judgements hinder you from living your best life. The reality is people will always have something to say. Some people run their mouths because it’s all they know how to do. A lot of times the ones that talk the most are the most miserable. You can’t stop people from talking, judging, and being who they are. What you can stop is how much you let their chatter and opinions hinder you. Sometimes you have to just tune out their noise and turn up that inner voice that speaks to your heart. So again the question is… are you ready to get to the point in your life where you no longer care what people think? My answer is definitely yes.

Shade of Improvement: Me Time Please

We as women have the tendency to take care of everybody else but ourselves. I think that’s just part of our nature. The only problem with that is while we are busy taking care of everyone else, who is taking care of us? We get so caught up in everyday life that everyday we neglect ourselves.

When was the last time you did something for you? Doesn’t have to be anything major like a trip to France or a Caribbean cruise. Just something you did exclusively to put a smile on your face and joy in your heart with no one to interrupt or interfere.

Whether it’s reading a book, watching you favorite t.v. show in peace and quiet, or a long bubble bath, daily take time out to do something for you. Life is too short not to!