I once heard this motivational speaker say on the radio that if someone is not laughing at your dreams then your dreams aren’t big enough! The truth is not everyone can handle your dreams. Sometimes people can be intimidated by you having the desire to go beyond where you are and having visions bigger than they can see. Don’t limit yourself because other people have limited themselves. You don’t have to fall victim to that same mentality. So remember if they are laughing that’s a great sign that your dreams are in fact big enough!
You’re beautiful, smart, amazing, and worthy of greatness. Tell yourself these words everyday. Wait for someone else to tell you if you want to, or you can choose to be your own biggest fan. Makeup can make you look beautiful. So can that new black dress and new fancy hairdo. However, if you don’t feel beautiful on the inside everything else is just exactly what I said…..things that make you look beautiful. You have to feel beautiful from within first. That is where it starts. Loving yourself completely and knowing your worth is the beginning of true beauty. Everything you put on the outside will just help enhance the inner pretty that lies within.
I’m sure you’ve probably heard of a vision board. Over the past few months I’ve heard several people mention the importance of having one. I never thought too much about it, but consistently hearing that it’s worth creating one made me give in. I once heard someone say if you can’t realistically see yourself living the life you want, then don’t even expect it. Makes sense to me!
Yes count me in as a member of the vision board team. Every morning I read my vision board out loud. Not only to put it out in the universe, but to actually hear myself say and speak the things I desire for my life. I find something so empowering in that. Speaking it aloud also gives me motivation to put some things in action. I can read a vision board all day long, but if I’m not putting in the effort to make those desires come to life…they wont! The bible says faith without works is dead. If you plant seeds and don’t water them nothing will grow.
So today I challenge you to start your own vision board. It can consist of pictures, quotes, scriptures, a list of goals, whatever you wan’t to include. Be as creative as you want. Let the board represent what you want for your life. If you can see it you can do it!
If we focused more on being like ourselves do you realize how much better we would be as women? Our society is so big on keeping up with the Jonses and getting what the person next to us has, that we lose sight of just focusing on our own selves.
Get a bigger house because your best friend just got one, get bigger boobs because yours don’t look like Kim Kardashians, get married because you’re the last of your friends still single, blah blah and blah.
The more we focus on other people and what they have, the less we are focusing on how blessed we are. God has a plan for each and every one of us. An individual plan not a group plan. This ain’t Verizon. Your path is not going to be the same as the woman next to you and hers is not the same as yours. When you learn to stay in our own lane, you will begin to realize that your journey is made just for you. So buckle up and enjoy the ride!
Dear society…we don’t care about your unrealistic beauty standards! You for so long have told us women that we have to look a certain way. You have created this unrealistic box and made women who don’t fit into it, feel like they aren’t beautiful. Women of color especially know this to be true, because we have never fit into your closed minded standard of beauty anyway. Your standards are lies and they are harmful! They are putting pressure on our young girls and women, making them go to desperate measures to try to fit in your beauty box. A box that is unfair, unrealistic, and unattainable. A box that doesn’t allow room for women of all different shapes, sizes, and complexions.
So from here on out…we are taking your standards and putting them back in your box. We are taking that box and throwing it as far away from this universe as possible so it can never return. We will create our own standards of beauty. Where each woman is encouraged to be her best self, and not try to look like what she sees in a magazine. Where dark skin will be considered just as beautiful as light skin. Where imperfections will be celebrated instead of condemned and ridiculed. Where the definition of beauty lies in our hearts and not in the hands of the media.
Dear society we have decided to define beauty. You will no longer define it for us!
I came across the question what would you do if you were not afraid? I don’t remember where I saw this. A Twitter post, a T-shirt, I cannot recall. I just remember seeing those words and it stuck with me. It made me think about my life, and how I have allowed myself to becomes fear’s victim. I have allowed fear to hold me back from so many things. Fear of what others may think. Fear of failure. Fear of this and fear of that!! As I pondered on this and those words kept speaking to my spirit, I knew that I had to make the choice whether or not to continue to be fear’s victim. So I ask you this…what would you do if you were not afraid?
If you want to live the life you truly want, you have to do something. It sounds simple, actually it is. We as women tend to make it a lot harder than it needs to be. You may listen to negativity and the outside world more than you listen to your heart. You may dream about the life you want to live but don’t do anything to attain it. Whether it be fear or whatever the reason, there is a force holding you back. You may dream of being an entrepreneur, losing weight, traveling across the country, but none of these things are going to happen if you simply do nothing! Do something!
Even it that something you do is small. Take small steps to get to the larger goal. If you want to loose weight, start walking, eating healthier. If you want to leave a bad relationship take the steps to remove yourself from it. Small steps will lead to bigger ones. The more steps you take the closer you become to your dream, your goals, your destination. Again do something!