Ayo Haynes

Ayo Haynes Backstage at the Apollo

Some say the world of real estate is a man’s world, but Ayo Haynes proves it would be nothing without a woman who is on top of her game! With a background as an actress and voice-over artist, a BA in Business Communications and a MBA in Marketing, Ayo is definitely making her mark in the world of real estate. As a Real Estate Broker in NYC for 13 years, she is now breaking into the Connecticut market and loving it! She is dedicated to helping her clients find the perfect place where home and wellness meet!

Definition of Success:

Success for me is when people call to ask me to be their exclusive agent or to work with them as a buyer without me having to go pitch them; your talent and experience speak for themselves. Pitches are like auditions in acting. You know you’ve made it when someone says here’s the listing. 

I love this time in my career because I can make my own schedule which is especially needed as a single mom. Initially, getting into the business you work about fifty to sixty hours a week, especially if you’re on a busy team like I was. Starting out you have to be prepared to not get a check three or four months which can be hard for most people. People see these reality shows and think that real estate is easy and that you only work with a client for a few days.

The real reality is that it is difficult, requires a lot of continuous education and experience, and is very time consuming. Sometimes the time you put in doesn’t match up with your commission check. You have to be willing to put in the work and be persistent. Most importantly you have to love working with and helping people.

Healthy Self Esteem:

I am a true believer in guarding what I take in whether it’s what I’m watching or listening to. I’m in two industries that require people to pick you based on your personality and experience. I need/require positivity around me all the time. If you are coming to the table with something heavy on you and being negative, it will affect your bottom line. 

I also think it is important to use trusted friends and mentors as your mirror, from time to time, when needed. I can be hard on myself so I have to remind myself to treat me like a client and to be gentle with myself. We all have insecurities – physical or other.  If someone I trust can be the voice of reason I listen or at least take what they are saying into consideration.

Speaking of a voice of reason, my 4 year old daughter keeps it real with me all the time. Her bluntness is hilarious but insightful. She’s lucky she’s cute and my daughter! But seriously, I learn so much from her. How she gets over things quickly, she speaks her truth without malice, she’s kind, she apologizes when she’s in the wrong, she shares and she easily tells the important people in her life how much she loves them. I try to take a page out of her book all the time!

Dating Advice:

I probably should be the one taking advice but I think if you are on the fence about someone,  go on three dates to see if there is really something there. Nowadays three dates can take weeks or months to happen so you have to rely on your instincts to gauge if the spaced out dates are happening naturally or because someone is playing a game of avoidance. We are living in a swipe left – swipe right world based mostly on pictures. Pictures don’t tell the whole story. I say the same to my clients when I show them what I know to be a great home but they dismiss it because the pictures didn’t grab them. Sometimes we have to slow down, go deeper, and take things offline when we normally wouldn’t.

What’s in the future:

My business partner and I are working hard on crafting our brand which is all about where Home and Life meet Wellness. For us, that point is WELLNEST. We work with our clients on finding all the ways to make their home and all the other NESTS of their lives as comfortable, healthy, green and empowering as they want or need to be. 

I’m excited to be expanding my 13 years of experience in real estate to the Connecticut market. It’s been a fun challenge to learn a suburban market compared to New York City. My team partner, Ivonne, will be doing the same in New Jersey so the Haynes-Velasquez Team will be able to work with clients in the New York Tri-state area. That, of course, will mean adding to the team which is exciting.

I am also looking forward to more opportunities where my acting and real estate worlds get to play off each other. I recently was asked by the executives at my firm to co-host our semi-annual meeting at the Apollo Theater – it was amazing and a dream come true that I never would have never expected to come from my work in real estate. I’m looking forward to seeing what’s next on that front and developing a few ideas of my own. A woman’s work is never done!

Favorite Shade of Lipstick:

I’m more of a gloss person versus lipstick. But for special occasions and business meetings that’s when I put on lipstick. For me, I like a red that has a touch of brown. There is one from Arbonne I love called Dahlia and it’s the perfect combination of gloss and lipstick. Their products aren’t tested on animals, and are paraben and phthalates free which is all right up my alley! 

To contact or learn more about Ayo please visit

https://www.halstead.com/real-estate-agent/ayo-haynes

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Zoe Hennessey

Photography by Jeffrey Alberts

Achieving the perfect look may be a challenging task to many. For Freelance Fashion Stylist and Personal Shopper Zoe Hennessey, it’s more like a calling. From styling celebrities to fashion editorials, Zoe has an extensive resume and portfolio that definitely speaks for itself. With clients like Bravo, MTV, and VH1, Zoe’s future in the fashion world looks so bright we all may need to put our shades on!

Definition of success:

For me, success will be when my name becomes a brand that is widely recognizable. If that doesn’t happen, then when I can retire happily, and financially secure! As far as sacrifices, being a freelancer means never having a reliable, steady paycheck, and that is really scary at times.

Self esteem: 

I always try to remind myself that everyone has problems, even the people who appear to have everything. It’s normal to feel jealous and depressed, but to try to not stay in that place for too long. I try to keep in mind everything I have accomplished and the things I am thankful for in my life. Exercise and fresh air help get me out of funks.  

Dating Advice:

Don’t be too picky and give everyone a chance.

What’s in the future: 

I hope to continue to grow – more jobs and more opportunities!  

Favorite shade of lipstick?

– YSL lip stain in #105 Corail Hold Up – I’ve worn this for years. It’s light, peachy and the perfect amount of color for the daytime.

To learn more about Zoe and her services please visit

https://www.zoehennessey.com/

Julia Bendis

Most single women will probably agree that in 2019 dating is pretty tough! Trying to find the right guy, and sorting through all the bad apples can make any single girl want to give up and throw in the towel. Luckily that’s where Julia Bendis come in. As a matchmaker and founder of Match by Julia, she is dedicated to helping hopeful singles find love in all the right places!

Definition of success:

My definition of success has less to do with your social media following, and more with how many people you have helped along the way. It really doesn’t matter what business you are in or what job you have, success is when you have helped others along the way, supported them and been a mentor. One of the biggest sacrifices I had to make in my life was letting go of a steady paycheck when I decided to start my own Matchmaking and Coaching business. I started it on my own, without a loan or help from anyone.

I had many people along the way who not only doubted my success, but flat out told me it couldn’t be done and that I would most likely fail. That negativity actually gave me the fire to persist! My whole life I have used negativity as my fire and fuel to prove those people wrong, and it worked. I encourage people to stop listening to others as it pertains to their life and career. Only you know what can and will work for you, so stop listening to everyone! Nobody knows you and your goals like you do, that’s the only opinion you need.

Self Esteem:

Self-esteem is something every woman needs more of, and we have all battled with low self-esteem at one point in our lives, myself included. It is something that has to come from within, as cliche as that sounds. No matter how many people tell you that you are beautiful, or smart or worthy, if you don’t feel it on your own, you will never believe them.

It’s not an easy challenge to overcome, but my self-worth and self-esteem has always come from being able to accomplish tasks or goals. For example, when I match a client with another single person and witness them develop an amazing relationship, it makes me feel good about myself, not to mention when they go on to have children! Knowing I helped create a life, that in itself is a huge self-esteem boost. Helping people that are in need or being an advocate for human trafficking victims is another crucial self-esteem boost. Help others and it will make you feel so much better about yourself and who you are as a person. 

Dating advice:

Stop listening to your Single friends! Like I said above, nobody knows what’s best for you, only you know that. What does your gut tell you? Listen to your instincts, watch out for red flags, do not go against your gut. It is hardly ever wrong. Another big piece of advice is have common sense when out there dating: only meet in public places, take your own car or Lyft/Uber, do not overshare on the first date, listen more than you speak. I know the last one is tough because we like to talk, but you will walk away from the date knowing nothing about him if all you do is talk. Ask him questions about his life and his passions, and he should do the same in return. 

What’s in the future: 

I am in the process of publishing my first book about my life in the former Soviet Union, and funny stories of growing up there and immigrating to America, called ‘No Smiling Allowed’. My second book is also in the works, which will be about my clients and all the crazy things they ask for, including strange fetishes, unrealistic expectations and much more!

Favorite shade of lipstick:


I don’t really wear lipstick often, usually just a light-pink tinted chapstick, but  I would rather tell you about my favorite books instead. One of my favorite books is by Esther Perel called ‘Mating in Captivity’, everyone man or woman should read it! My other favorite book is by Elizabeth Gilbert called ‘Committed’. I encourage my clients and my friends to read them both, it will help you understand relationships, and see things from a very different perspective.

To learn more about Julia and Match by Julia please visit https://www.matchbyjulia.com/

Misha Fields

Wife, mother, career woman, one -third member of one of my favorite female R&B groups 702, LeMisha “Misha” Fields, is proof to us ladies that with hard work and dedication yes we can have it all. I recently got the chance to chat with Misha to get her perspective on success and how she makes it all work.

Definition of success:

The most accurate definition of success is Happiness!  I don’t believe it has anything to do with how much money you have in your pocket. I don’t feel like it’s about how much time you put in the office, how many accolades you have, or how high you climb up a ladder. Happiness starts with yourself. 

It has been a tough road for me. For a while it was tough balancing  my career and my kids, then adding on 702 made it even harder. I have to remember to stay grounded and stay centered. To me happiness is definitely the definition of success.

Advice to young women aspiring to be in the music industry: 

Keep people in your circle that you can trust.  When you have a vision you need to ensure the people around you still have your same vision and on the same page as you. This is important especially for younger artists. A lot of times record labels try to mold you into what they think you are. That’s not what an artist is. An artist should be able to mold themselves, and reflect what other people are going through. The only way you can do that is to be yourself. You shouldn’t have more than three or four people in your circle that are really tight. 

Self esteem: 

The biggest thing for me right now is meditation. I meditate a lot. I created my own little mediation area in my home recently.  I also read. There is this book that I would like to tell all ladies about. It’s called “The Power of Now.” The author is Eckhart Tollee. It basically teaches you how to keep yourself in the present moment. If we keep ourselves dwelling on the past and looking to the future, we are never going to get anywhere or be content with ourselves.  

If you are in the present space you will realize that there is nothing wrong with you right now. 

Years and years ago I used to look at past pictures of myself and say man I am so fat. Now I look at myself  in pictures and say why did I use to be so skinny? I was skinny as heck what was I thinking? It teaches you to be happy where you are because now I’m about twenty pounds heavier than I was then. It makes you look at yourself and say what was I so mad about I should have just been happy. It’s about loving the skin you’re in and realize that there’s nothing wrong with me. I’m beautiful, I’m happy, and I can’t find anything to really complain about. When you stay in the present moment you can get a place where you can really find the love in you. 

Dating advice

Take your time. Don’t rush it. That’s probably the biggest advice I can give to women. A lot of times we are looking for that love and we want it so bad that we settle. You can never change a man and you shouldn’t want to. If a man is not living up to your standards from the jump then he ain’t the one. Take your time. If you keep the right people in your circle and have the right energy around you, they will come to you. 

I haven’t dated in so long. I’ve been off the market for a very very long time.  Me and my husband are junior high school sweethearts and have been married for twenty years. What I have noticed a lot about this newer generation is that they rush into these relationships and try to fix a man. If he didn’t come out right by his mama nine times out of ten you can’t help him either. 

What’s in the future:

Right now my kids will always be our main focus. My son plays football for the University of Arizona and my daughter is in high school on the varsity cheer squad. On top of that she wants to sing and model. This may sound real cliche but I’ve lived my life, but now the focus is to make sure my kids work on their goals and we pray that they reach them.  At the end of the day I’m going to do what I can to mold them into being a great young woman and great young man. 

I would love to continue to work with 702 and keep working with the girls. As long as I can keep it all going in the same way I have been able to so far.

Favorite shade of lipstick:

I don’t have it on me right now and can’t remember the name, but it’s a nude color by M.A.C. You know I’m super light skinned so finding the perfect shade of nude is hard.

Brandy Gomez-Duplessis

Aloha to you! You would think good food, beaches, warm weather, and beautiful scenery is more than enough to sell any girl a trip to Hawaii. For the icing on the cake add to your itinerary an appointment with Hawaii’s top makeup artist. As an Influencer, Makeup Artist, Beauty Expert, and Entrepreneur, Brandy Gomez-Duplessis can take you from already fabulous to even more fabulous.

Definition of Success:

My definition of success is doing what I’m passionate about and being able to live the lifestyle that I want. I have been blessed to achieve success in my career and have the lifestyle that I want. Being an entrepreneur is hard and it’s a lot of work. You need discipline, strength and very tough skin. But success comes with sacrifice and for me that was time with my husband and kids. I missed out on a few important dates in their lives. So, I promised myself that I would always give them the best life I could give each of them every day.

Everyday that I am with them is special, so when I missed those special days it wasn’t so disappointing for them. At the end of the day, it was worth it when my kids shared with me that I was their role model not someone famous on television. They saw that my hard work was for them to live the lifestyle that they had.

Self Esteem:

Self-esteem is something that I was taught by my parents and family. They always gave me positive and encouraging words. I think women should surround themselves around people that know their worth and love how they look. The world is different now, it’s very sensitive and so is the world. You must be confident in yourself and understand that everyone is not going to embrace you. When I was growing up, I didn’t see a lot of women that looked like me on TV, magazines, and in the workplace.

My skin tone wasn’t always liked by others, but I didn’t need their approval to feel great about myself. I was already told by my loved ones and I loved what I saw when I looked in the mirror. So, if I wasn’t someone’s flavor of choice it was ok. I want girls, teens and young adults to understand that we are not always going to be someone’s flavor of choice whether it comes to looks, bodies, hair, and skin tone. And guess what, it’s ok. You need to love yourself first. Looking for love from other people to validate who you are doesn’t work. #justsaying

Dating Advice:

The advice that I would give to single women on LOVE & DATING is to enjoy yourself but respect yourself. Usually, you have already met your soulmate, he’s that friend that you’re overlooking for that bad boy. He’s that guy that is always there for you when your heart is broken. Also, date guys that are not in your community but that guys who have similar taste like you do. I can promise you that he’s not on those Apps…sorry girls.

What’s in the future:

I see for Entitled Beauty, my partner and I creating more colors and products. I see us growing and retailing not just online but in boutiques, salons, and hotels. We will become a household name!

Favorite shade of lipstick:

OMG! This is a hard question. Let’s see, my favorite shade of is lipstick is a bold purple shade called Queen B from my makeup line Entitled Beauty. It’s the color I created for us, Lupus Warriors.

To learn more about Brandy and her work please visit https://insidethelifeofamakeupartist.com/

T. Cooper

NYC Celebrity Makeup Artist, Hairstylist, and Owner of Major Face, you can definitely say T. Cooper has her hands full. T.’s success in the beauty industry is definitely well deserved. She is a prime example that when you mix talent with fierce determination you have a combination that’s unstoppable.

Photo credit: Ken Jones

Definition of Success:

My definition of success is doing what you love, on your own terms. In order to get to the place in my career that I am today, I had to maintain a full-time job as a tailor, a part-time job as a bartender, and do photo shoots for free for about 11 months. Not everyone is willing to make that sacrifice, and what I see with a lot of new artists, is that they cannot recognize an opportunity that isn’t a paid opportunity. No one wants to work for free, but it’s necessary, especially in the beginning.

Self Esteem:

I struggled with self-esteem for a very long time, but I forced myself to see the beauty in myself. I was that girl who could not go to the bodega for milk without makeup. I was so insecure for anyone to see me unless I was done up, and it really affected my life. People would tell me that I looked good without it, but I didn’t believe it. I wanted to see the same thing that other people saw when they looked at me, so I eventually had to push myself outside of my comfort zone.

I started to not wear makeup, and I would alternate between long and short hair, and sometimes wear my natural hair. There was a point where I wouldn’t let anyone see my natural hair, either. Now I’m at a place where I don’t wear makeup at all (except for lip gloss) unless I’m going out, or going to be on camera, and everyone knows what my natural hair looks like. It was a long process, but I’m so happy. And I feel prettier now than I did then. 

Dating advice:

My advice to any single woman is that you have to realize that dating is hard, and it’s probably going to take time to find the right person for you. You have to be open to dating people that aren’t your “type“, sometimes people pleasantly surprise you. Don’t give up, don’t give too much to those who haven’t earned it, and realize that other people‘s shortcomings have nothing to do with you. 

What’s in the Future:

I see myself starting a blog. I have always wanted to create content, and I’m in a place now where I think that I can be consistent enough to do it.

Favorite shade of Lipstick:

My favorite shade of lipstick is rose pink. 

To learn more about T. and Major Face please visit https://www.majorface.com/