What I love about a new year is exactly that…it’s NEW! Maybe you need to finally kick that guy you’ve been dating to the curb and keep him in 2019 where you found him. You may have a goal to finally take the pile of clothes off the treadmill in your room and actually use it. Maybe your New Year’s resolution is to spend more time with friends and family, stop smoking, move to a new city, or lose weight. Whatever it is, the new year brings us all a very much needed fresh start to move forward. Out with the old and in with the NEW!
When it comes to relationships and dating, I am a true believer that a man can only treat you as bad as you let him. A number of womem for some reason allow themselves to accept less than the best in relationships. Maybe it’s the fear of being alone, but too many women choose to put up with men who don’t treat them right.
I’ve been single plenty of times in my life, and I realize that being single is much better than allowing myself to be in a relationship where I’m disrespected, mistreated, and not appreciated. As they say I can do bad all by myself.
We have to realize that we hold the power. The power to set the tone for how we expect to be treated in relationships. If you are not being treated as you should, don’t be afraid to let it go. It may hurt at first, but in the long run you will thank yourself for choosing self respect. Never love a man way more than you love yourself! That is just a recipe for disaster. If we loved ourselves more just think about how much less we would NOT allow the wrong man into our space.
As an amazing woman you are worthy and deserve to be treated like the queen that you are. Don’t settle for less and allow any treatment that goes against your self worth!
I don’t think there is any woman on this planet that does not have to work at being confident on a daily basis. Who wakes up feeling like the most confident woman in the world every morning? I know I don’t! Especially in this society when there are a million creams to make you look younger, and all kinds of quick fix products to achieve the perfect body. In other words constant reminders that you can look better!
The truth is it takes work to be comfortable in your own skin. It takes work and effort to be okay with being you. Everyday you should always give yourself a pep talk. A daily does of positivity to feed your soul. That’s not to be over confident or arrogant. It’s to remind yourself that God makes awesome creations, and you being one of them!
I once heard this motivational speaker say on the radio that if someone is not laughing at your dreams then your dreams aren’t big enough! The truth is not everyone can handle your dreams. Sometimes people can be intimidated by you having the desire to go beyond where you are and having visions bigger than they can see. Don’t limit yourself because other people have limited themselves. You don’t have to fall victim to that same mentality. So remember if they are laughing that’s a great sign that your dreams are in fact big enough!
You’re beautiful, smart, amazing, and worthy of greatness. Tell yourself these words everyday. Wait for someone else to tell you if you want to, or you can choose to be your own biggest fan. Makeup can make you look beautiful. So can that new black dress and new fancy hairdo. However, if you don’t feel beautiful on the inside everything else is just exactly what I said…..things that make you look beautiful. You have to feel beautiful from within first. That is where it starts. Loving yourself completely and knowing your worth is the beginning of true beauty. Everything you put on the outside will just help enhance the inner pretty that lies within.
We all have experienced heartbreak from a man at one time or another. It happens to the best of us. It’s all part of that emotional thing called love. It’s super easy for us women to become bitter after a bad breakup. The lies, the hurt, the pain that an unhealthy relationship can bring. It can be very discouraging to try love ever again!
In the past after getting out of terrible relationships it took me a while to bounce back. It was hard to trust again after being betrayed and mistreated. I felt that every guy was a dog, and good men no longer existed. I was having a conversation with a guy that I was interested in, and he said to me “Why are you even trying to date? I can’t get to know you with this brick wall you have up. ” Needless to say that didn’t work out!
He was right with what he said. I couldn’t even see the wall l had built around myself, but as a man he could easily. To me it was about trying to protect myself from lying cheating no good men. In reality I was hindering myself from allowing a good, kind, honest man from coming into my life.
I learned that I can date smarter. I don’t have to be quick to trust every guy right away, but still allow myself to open up when I feel it’s right. I was holding on to what men I’ve dated in the past had done, and allowing it to prevent me from finding the love I deserve. I realized that being bitter wasn’t healthy. It was a huge hinderance. I learned that instead of being hurt and bitter to learn, grow, and be better!
If we focused more on being like ourselves do you realize how much better we would be as women? Our society is so big on keeping up with the Jonses and getting what the person next to us has, that we lose sight of just focusing on our own selves.
Get a bigger house because your best friend just got one, get bigger boobs because yours don’t look like Kim Kardashians, get married because you’re the last of your friends still single, blah blah and blah.
The more we focus on other people and what they have, the less we are focusing on how blessed we are. God has a plan for each and every one of us. An individual plan not a group plan. This ain’t Verizon. Your path is not going to be the same as the woman next to you and hers is not the same as yours. When you learn to stay in our own lane, you will begin to realize that your journey is made just for you. So buckle up and enjoy the ride!